Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Nearly Noon

It's nearly noon here at the casa and I have yet to do anything productive.  Ok, I made breakfast but that is about it.  LOL  No exercise, no cleaning, etc.  But... I did do some FB'ing!  LOL  Instead of falling into drama online, I've been cruising budget and organizing pages.  This has turned into something fun and positive for me!  I've enjoyed it immensely.  And for the most part, I've stayed to that or a quick browse of my feed.  I won't lie... I'm even on a tummy tuck group!  No, I'm not ready for that big step, yet.  But, I decided it was good to start the research now so I could decide if later on that was something I really want.  I would want to lose at least 20 more pounds before hand.  Anyways, that's what I've been up to.  I'm not 'avoiding' people or conversations, but I'm trying not to get into situations where drama could crop up, if that makes sense.  I'm not commenting on anything that isn't important to me.  And I'm trying not to comment if I'm in a bad mood.  That helps a lot.  HA! Simply because it keeps you open and discussing both sides of a story.  I'm typically good at it, but as Didi mentioned, she thought that the culmination of several things was making that not come across.  And I agreed with her.  So, I'm making the effort to ask myself a couple of questions before I post.  One is, "Is this truly important to me?"  The other, "If I respond, how do I respond in a firm but non-negative way?"  Works most of the time.  Just have to keep it in mind.  I'm finding that I don't respond a lot because it's either not really that important to me or it's not important enough to waste my time, OR if I can't phrase it nicely, I'll move on and try to think of a better way and come back to it.  And there are times I don't come back to it so I'm guessing it wasn't that important to begin with.

I feel like I'm getting back more to my self.  And I feel like not being on FB much and not commenting as much, giving up most of the groups and things has helped to relieve my stress.  Getting things done around here has helped with that, too.  And that one is a combo factor.  Partially because getting things done is a great relief, but it also helps to be busy and active.  I'm not a big believer in formal exercise unless it's something you love and will always do.  But I'm a big believer in staying busy and active.  So, instead of stressing if I don't work out X times per week, I'm going to just keep focusing on being active.  And if I have a day where I'm not being as active with working on projects or yard work, I'm going to jump on the bike or treadmill.  Maybe do some weights (light).  Just be busy.  I think being busy is a big stress reliever for me.  And considering that my family has always shown to be fairly healthy without going to the gym or eating some crazy diet, I'm going to go with that.  I think the fact that they ate pretty well and stayed pretty active was their key.  They weren't 'pure' in their diets, but they also weren't gluttons.  It makes sense to me.  I just gotta keep with it and not get frustrated.

Speaking of keeping with it, I know I lost some time when working on the house and my goal was just to maintain.  And like I said before, we got a massive amount of work done.  But then I had the cycle from HELL.  Well, I checked my weight today, to start off Fall, and it was in between 174.5 and 175.  I'm ok with that.  We'll say that's 6 to my next goal.  And I can deal with that.  No time limit, no stressing.  It's just the next mark I'd like to get to - 169.  And I'll get there when I get there. 


  1. I have pretty much stopped commenting on anything that isn't posted by a friend on facebook, people are just trolls for the most part on other pages like news sites and such. You have a pretty strong presence so I can see how some comments might come off as a little firm, but I've gotten to know your writing style from blogging so I can easily figure out what tone of voice you're actually using. Great job with the weight loss! It's been so long since I've kept track of everyone and I'm glad to see your doing well with that also! I had a friend that had a tummy tuck almost two years ago, she'd probably do it again but it wasn't a miracle cure either. I may get one myself someday, time will tell!

  2. Also I'm STOKED that I can comment again! I tried to several times over the last year but was never sure if anything went through so this is amazing!!!

  3. Glad to help. Facebook, and online groups have the ability to turn the calmest most patient person into a raving loon. I just thinned out the groups that I'm in too, and then unfollowed nearly all of the remaining groups, so that I do not see the posts in my feed. Sometimes sticking our head into the sand is useful. That online quarreling crap causes stress for NOTHING.
    I saw that you were in that tummy tuck group, and it got my curiosity running. I thought maybe you'd had one. So, is that just to get rid of extra skin- or is it like lipo?

    1. No, I haven't had it done but I've considered it. I know that if I get lower, I'm going to have some major droop. :( Lip is where they suck out fat, but in the tuck, they literally remove a chunk of your lower abdomen. Sometimes if you are still heavier, it can be fatty. Mine is just... saggy. Sorta looks like an empty Wal-mart bag. The more I lose, the more saggy and wrinkly it is. I'm not sure if it's worth it to me to get it because it's the only real area that bugs me besides my upper inner thighs. It just may not be worth the stress, money, and time.


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